New Year’s Resolutions are stupid.

Many people make them and almost no one keeps them.

I promise to lose weight. I promise to save more money. I promise to eat better. I promise to write more. I promise to eat more ice cream.

OK. Maybe that last one is an easier New Year’s Resolution to keep.

However, New Year’s Resolutions are for suckers and they only tend to achieve one thing. They make a person feel like crap for not following through with them. They make people feel worthless because they didn’t eat better, exercise more, and lose weight. It makes eating more ice cream seem that much better.

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But, at the end of the day, people need to make changes if they want to live a better life.

2016 sucked. There were a lot of things that happened in the world that made the world a much darker, dangerous place. There were a lot of deaths of people that some of us loved. For me, it was even tougher as my wife almost died and I spent the last eight months of the year caring for her and helping to bring her back to health.

For as much as 2016 sucked, it also filled me with a sense of optimism.

My wife almost died. She lived. She was in a hospital, bedridden for months. She is walking again, with a limp and some pain, but she is walking again. We are financially destroyed right now thanks to credit cards piling up and hospital bills arriving that the insurance is mysteriously refusing to cover. But, at least we had insurance and they couldn’t refuse to cover us. At least we are still paying rent and have a vehicle that is not only paid off but in pretty good condition.

We will remain thankful for that as days ahead could change everything in a second. The future is full of doubt but we have survived what lie has dealt us.

Now, it is time to look forward into 2017 and what might be the scariest year we have ever headed into.

And it is time to make changes.

Personal changes.

These are not New Year’s Resolutions. These are promises to myself that I will work to get better in certain areas.

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I will write smarter and that does not mean writing more. I will look at what I am writing and who I write for and I will make sure to capitalize on what will put my family in a better place and focus on those places first. I will plan out a better writing schedule, one that allows me to get things done in a timely manner while still having time for Johanna and Ash and a family I won’t neglect ever again.

I know what I almost lost in 2016. I won’t take them for granted again.

I will read more. I will watch more movies. Those are things that will make me a better writer.

I will finish Fallen Star and then move on to the next book. And the next book. And the next book. This is my career. This is not something where I will celebrate my next finished book. I will write every day and not stop until I have a library of books I have written that I can be proud of.

And I will stop procrastinating.

Putting things off is my greatest talent. No more.

I will get going again on DDP Yoga and I will do it with Johanna since that will help her relieve a lot of the pain that her accident left her with. We will keep working out at the Y. I will work with and maybe even coach my son in his basketball and baseball leagues. I will be an active parent for him, as I always have, and will make sure he knows I am always there for him.

We will have family days where we get the hell out of the house, I get away from my computer, and we do things together. That was something that stopped when we moved to Midland. That is not something I will neglect again.

Once again, these are not New Year’s Resolutions. These are things that I am going to work on doing better in my life.

Finally, I will make money from my books.

This is not something I have any control over. The only way that I can make money is to get my books out there, make them the best they can be, get the word out, and then keep writing. I can’t make money sitting on one book that I published. This is my career. This is my writing life. This is what will put my family in a better place.

I will succeed.

It’s not a New Year’s Resolutions.

It is a promise.

Happy 2017 everyone.